I've gotten this question from a few people, namely family since most of you are family or close to it.
The reason is simple. Everything changes and you can either go with the change or complain about it. I chose to go with it. Over the last year my life has felt very new, very different. I've liked it, but I could feel change happening, and I'm talking bigger than when facebook makes changes.
Last August my awesome husband quit his job to go back to school full time. This change made a difference in our roles at home. I used to work during the day and he worked nights and our beautiful son was being watched for a few hours a day by others (family who loved him, but still not me or Scott). I didn't like this. When school started I was able to work night so Scott could take classes during the day and we were able to take care of our child independently. At first I loved being home with him during the day and working at night to help take care of my family. I was making more money and Scott was really happy and so was Rivers. I was exhausted. Kids some how syphon any and all energy out of a normal person. I would get up around 7 with an infant/toddler, take care of him, make Scott a lunch, clean the house and keep up the laundry and other house chores, Work for 5-8 hours (waitress remember, crazy hours), come home, clean up dinner, decompress, shower then go to bed. I was averaging about 5-6 hours of sleep a night, but I was making it work and thought I was happy. Only I wasn't. At first I blamed it on seasonal depression, but really I was burning both ends of the candle and slaving away at a job that was convenient, but not great. Don't get me wrong I love being a waitress, and I'm pretty good at it too.
At some point however things started slipping. Scott had finals coming up and I was busy with my Young Women's calling. I began to give up the fight. I got a complaint at work from a costumer. These are common, people have crazy expectations and when something doesn't work as planned they take it out of the low man, well for me, I was that low man. I tried to make things right with the guest but in the end the company decided to let me go. I was panicked. What was I to do with a now one year old, a husband out of school for the summer who was working for his dad, no job skills except hospitality which was now tarnished, and a whole summer of bills still needing to be attended to? I prayed, and I prayed and I prayed. I kept thinking "the Lord will work this out after I do all I can do." I looked for other serving jobs but I wanted something very specific. No Sundays, and I needed Wednesdays off for Mutual. Also I'd rather not serve liquor, but I was willing to let that one slide if I could find something that met the first two, since I don't drink those became the important ones. Nothing really seemed promising. I had one interview that was more of "Well we think you're great, but we actually just filled the spot we had open. But we will keep you in mind next time and give you a call since you're so great for this". After some talk with Scott we decided to take it to the Lord and see this as a sign to live the way our parents and grandparents lived. Poor. Dirt poor to be exact. We had been smart and paid off our car with our tax return, paid off our credit card, and put the rest in savings. This has been how we've paid our bills (fallowing the counsel of church leaders really pays off) We see no movies, don't go out to eat, stick to a menu of sorts (some weeks thing fall apart) and been very careful about our money. With Scott working for his dad we have been able so pay our bills, fulfill our calling in the YM and YW (did I mention that while all this was going on Scott got called to the YM's presidency and to be the Scout master? He did and we got more busy.), and still have one super smart, happy son.
I want to mention here that my depression seems to have gone away as well. I think I was just over whelmed and unhappy. Life improved and I realized how unhappy I was at my job, and that I had been for some time now. They treated me very poorly and I put up with it for so long. I'd been working at the same place for five and a half years! I'd been there through 3 lead MOD's, 2 executive chef's, 4 sous chefs and at least 30-40 different servers. Not to mention a few VIP changes in the company. I finally feel like myself for the first time since High school. I have time now to finish my sewing classes, blog better (now that I want to), learn to cook healthy meals, play games with the neighbors, make it to friends parties and functions, and be the wife and mother I've wanted to be as well as the YW leader I know I can me.
Blessing in disguise.
Well I hear that nap time is over. Please stay tuned as I embrace the workings of becoming a better wife a mother and doing the domestic thing
Mystique
Wife, Mommy, Pop-culture expert, Lover of all things sweet, Dreamer, Poet, Etiquette critic, Mystique
Big * Middle * Little
Just a Blog about my boys, helmets, food and family....
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Monday, July 30, 2012
Changes
I've decided to make some changes to my blog, so for now, my blog is "under construction"
I've been unhappy with the way I blog, and I wanted this to be more than just my online journal. So I'm going to post about raising my son, being a wife, and how I'm learning to be a stay-at-home wife and mother after being in the work force for such a long time.
I feel like something great is about to start in my life and I want my blog to express it.
So stay tuned.
Also this new blogger format is still a little strange to me, but I'm going to learn to do it
I've been unhappy with the way I blog, and I wanted this to be more than just my online journal. So I'm going to post about raising my son, being a wife, and how I'm learning to be a stay-at-home wife and mother after being in the work force for such a long time.
I feel like something great is about to start in my life and I want my blog to express it.
So stay tuned.
Also this new blogger format is still a little strange to me, but I'm going to learn to do it
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Slacker
Oh! Hello Blog (and handful of blog followers)!
I have lots to post and much to say, but summer is crazy and I have put you on the back burner.
Let's make a deal, I'll try to take an hour everyday (or every other day) and inform you on all that is going on, and you can make me look interesting. Deal?
I have tons of pictures to post, as we have been on many adventures, plus Rivers has gotten so big and so cute and so smart and so funny. Plus I have a new niece.
So, in closing, blog, I just want you to know I haven't forgotten about you, and we can catch up real soon
Take Care
Mystique
I have lots to post and much to say, but summer is crazy and I have put you on the back burner.
Let's make a deal, I'll try to take an hour everyday (or every other day) and inform you on all that is going on, and you can make me look interesting. Deal?
I have tons of pictures to post, as we have been on many adventures, plus Rivers has gotten so big and so cute and so smart and so funny. Plus I have a new niece.
So, in closing, blog, I just want you to know I haven't forgotten about you, and we can catch up real soon
Take Care
Mystique
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
April
So, I've gotten behind... again... Story of my life. To catch up I'm doing posts by month, for now. Lack of an afternoon nap has really cut into my blog time. I've always wanted to be one of those super cool bloggers who post everyday all the cool everyday stuff I do. Maybe when Rivers gets older, but for now I just want to make sure I remember things that are going on in our lives, because Life is Awesome
Also my Best Friend Laura and super great friend Sarah came to town for Easter and I got to spend some much needed time with them! I am so lucky to have such great friends. I miss my Lala a lot, and I was so happy to spend the night with her talking and catching up. She invited us to her family Easter party and it was by far the most intense Easter party I have ever been too! Her family hid 30 DOZEN (!) eggs in her grandma's back yard. Some with cash and toy prizes that you redeemed after. Rivers walked with 25 cents and 3 fun toys and a full belly from all the food. We may go to the hunt again next year :)
| Made paper lanterns with my YW... they looked cool but didn't fly :( |
| Mastered my yummy, healthy home made pizza |
| Went to the Red and White game with Scott's sister and family |
| Saw the Jazz make it into the playoffs :) |
| Rivers got his first hair cut. He's clearly thrilled, |
| But he looks so handsome :) |
Easter gets it's only little spot in this post.
Rivers is spoiled, He got great Easter gifts from both sets of Grandparents,
and a pretty big haul from us.
He's my only child I feel fine with it
Also my Best Friend Laura and super great friend Sarah came to town for Easter and I got to spend some much needed time with them! I am so lucky to have such great friends. I miss my Lala a lot, and I was so happy to spend the night with her talking and catching up. She invited us to her family Easter party and it was by far the most intense Easter party I have ever been too! Her family hid 30 DOZEN (!) eggs in her grandma's back yard. Some with cash and toy prizes that you redeemed after. Rivers walked with 25 cents and 3 fun toys and a full belly from all the food. We may go to the hunt again next year :)
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Gardening
So we are lucky enough to have a bit of earth to plant a garden in. This year we have beets, carrots, onions, and peas. Scott is a really good gardener and takes such good care of the garden. Dont' worry Rivers helped.
After the garden was all planted, we needed to water it, and this is where the fun really happened. We decided to let bubs play in the sprinklers! He loved it!! He mostly wanted to drink the water (it's tap water so it's safe I checked before) and my sweet little guy threw a fit after when I made him come inside and go to bed. But the photos are priceless!
We're excited for Spring and I'll get some Easter photos up as soon as I upload them :)
After the garden was all planted, we needed to water it, and this is where the fun really happened. We decided to let bubs play in the sprinklers! He loved it!! He mostly wanted to drink the water (it's tap water so it's safe I checked before) and my sweet little guy threw a fit after when I made him come inside and go to bed. But the photos are priceless!
| His whole front side is soaked! |
We're excited for Spring and I'll get some Easter photos up as soon as I upload them :)
Saint Patricks Day!
So, my family is Irish, well part Irish, but that's enough to cause a celebration! We had a packed St. Patricks day this year.
Highlight's:
Rivers awesome hat.
Rivers dancing to Irish music at the Irish festival in Salt Lake.
Corn beef for EVERY meal
Spending the day with my dad
Lots of dogs at the st. Patrick's day parade (we love parades, Rivers loves dogs)
Seeing MY WHOLE FAMILY that's a tough one to do, ever.
Showing off my dislike for cabbage and Irish soda bread (they're just so yucky)
I made our traditional Corn Beef dinner with pistachio pudding for dessert, it was yummy and Scott loves left overs.
What a great day to be Irish!
Highlight's:
Rivers awesome hat.
Rivers dancing to Irish music at the Irish festival in Salt Lake.
Corn beef for EVERY meal
Spending the day with my dad
Lots of dogs at the st. Patrick's day parade (we love parades, Rivers loves dogs)
Seeing MY WHOLE FAMILY that's a tough one to do, ever.
Showing off my dislike for cabbage and Irish soda bread (they're just so yucky)
| Cutest little leprechaun ever!! |
| Surprisingly he left the hat on for most of the day |
| Corn beef dinner. Yum! |
What a great day to be Irish!
Pi day!
So my company banquet was on Pi Day (3/14) so I didn't make pot pies like I planned, but I did make an amazing 'Smores pie that was awesome! I found the recipe on Pinterest. What would I do with out Pinterest?
So much yummy chocolate marshmallow goodness. I'm ready to go camping now.
So much yummy chocolate marshmallow goodness. I'm ready to go camping now.
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